Registered: 1177760255 Posts: 815
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So I am really angry it seems it makes no difference wether you are paying support or waiting to be paid, C.S.R.U is idiotic either way. I called today because me and my boyfriend have a verbal agreement on affordable child support for the first year, since I am with our baby 24 hours a day breast feeding and can't work until at least June (if I can afford the $500.00 a month day care), anyways alls he wants is assurance he'll get credit for the payments from the judge, since our hearing isn't until the 22 of July. The unit says it can't take voluntary payments and that if he sends them they have to send them back to him. What kind of bull crap is that? Do they only take support from people who don't want to pay or if it's by force? I though t they wanted to help the hcildren get support yet they make us wait five months to get a hearing? It's not my fault, I filed my court papers when I was pregnant, and I can't believe my son has to go without because the court is too busy for us. We can't agree on support for the second year and after so we don't have a signed consent decree agreement, which sucks because we agree on everything else but that, which means that we go without support for five months. It also means Adam will be automatically put in arrears aprox $2,000.00 after court rather than the unit letting him start making payments now. I agree that he should have assurance he gets credit for the payments yet me and my son are being forced now to apply for welfare because they won't give him credit or let him pay the unit, what a useless agency. I though support was to keep kids off welfare. I hate this system it's useless and doesn't help anyone. __________________ "I am one of many and together we will prevail!"
Registered: 1188172295 Posts: 150
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there is a way around this. If he goes to the courthouse and gives the payment to them to send to you. They will do this they do it for a friend of mine. Then when you go to court and he submits the proof from the courthouse that he has paid you it will apply. When my aunt divorced my uncle they were plit for a long time before actually filing for a divorce. He wanted to pay his fair share but didn]t want to get nailed with back support. So she signed a paper in front of a notary aggreeing to the amount until court and he did the same then he made payments with money orders to her. this was all admissable and counted so he did not get nailed with back support. hope that helps.
Registered: 1117129928 Posts: 1,320
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you may also signe a statement saying he paid in full.
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Registered: 1186534920 Posts: 357
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If that doesn't work and he gets put into the arrears, then you could send the money right back to him.
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Registered: 1177760255 Posts: 815
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Yep I totally agree with all of that except he isn't paying anything yet he hasn't given the clerk anything, and he just doesn't trust me to tell the court he paid support, which sucks but I see his point to a degree. In counseling he said he'd start paying some support this Friday and use checks for it so he can record, it, but then tonight he decided all the things he wants is more important, so he may not give me what I though so I am not pleased at this runaround one bit. I wouldn't mind if it was to pay some bills for his home, but me and Haiden don't have a home at all, not of our own and we don't have money to pay for one, because we can't live with Adam so I am a bit disappointed in Adam tonight, he wants money for his cell phone before giving me what we agreed on.
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Registered: 1191847840 Posts: 28
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It is sad that he is not paying anything. However, until a Judge orders payments he does not have to. The downfall there, of course, is the fact that he is still responsible in the interim. I agree it would be more reasonable for some "user-friendly" mechanism for ncp to pay (and have it recorded & verified) prior to a Judge's order.
On the other hand Erin, you have equal responsibility to support your child(ren). You are NOT going to have a place of your own if you are NOT working (by your own choice evidently). You will NEVER have a house to call your own without a job and stable work history. If you think you will, you are sadly mistaken. Do what is best for your son and other children: get a job regardless of what it pays. A days work is very respectable no matter what it pays! And you may even learn that you will enjoy it IF you can keep your mouth shut and stop criticizing everyone.
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