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I am a 48 y/o divorced father of a 13 year old girl and a 9 year old boy. I made a terrible mistake about 21 years ago to marry a DHS worker who is a lying, manipulative narcissist. Her name is Irene Holzwarth, she is a supervisor for children and family services in Linn County.
She promised me two years ago that I would never have the children more than the minimum and she has worked very hard at keeping her promise. During our 1 1/2 year custody battle she attempted Parental Alienation Syndrome mainly with my daughter and slightly with our son. Then I received 47% custody of my children and I thought my problems were over....little did I know, they had just begun.
She has turned me into DHS three times for physical and emotional abuse of the children. The first time was because my female friend had slept with my daughter on a vacation. She made up a website about my friend stating that she is bisexual and let my daughter see it. Then my daughter turned on my friend and I. Those charges were unfounded.
In court, Irene admitted and defended her decision to make my children walk along I-80 because they were fighting in the car. The thirteen year old in front of the moving vehicle and the nine year old in the back. DHS founded that she is a confirmed child abuser. How can confirmed child abusers work for DHS??
Then after the divorce became final, she turned me into DHS in March for an incident that happened in January with my son and daughter. Those charges were unfounded.
Finally, she convinced my daughter's therapist Lisa Hawk, to file charges against me for emotional distress and denial of critical care. My daughter has stated that she doesn't want to visit me anymore. She keeps saying things that a child wouldn't know and Irene has finally achieved a total parentectomy.
Today, I received a letter from DHS stating that I am a confirmed child abuser!!!
If anyone has any advice or input, I would greatly appreciate it.

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Considering your former is an employee of DHS, there is a conflict of interest which creates reasonable doubt.  I would immediately hire an attorney and appeal the "Founded" report.  You do not want a "Founded" case of child abuse on your record. Furthermore, I would contact Governor Vilsack's Office regarding this matter since he ultimately oversees DHS and ask him to investigate the problem.


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You, my friend, are in the jaws of Hell! You know you are dealing with someone that is on the inside of an already atrocious male hating organization. You must be extremely careful and REFUTE everything with a lawyer before it sticks. You say they have you listed as a confirmed abuser.  I once heard that DHS can make someone a child abuser simply by several unfounded cases since they feel numerous unfounded cases = something wrong but unproven. 

Tread with caution and start paying a lawyer to keep you in your children's lives.  Man, it seems like everthing requires a lawyer to me - but that is because....it does in our current system.  Unless, you don't care about seeing your kids if they make something stick on you.  An ounce of prevention is worth the price of gold it things go South.

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We need to have this lady removed from her position. any case she has is going to be really screwed. It sound like she should be collecting garbage for a living.


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DHS and CRSU needs to take a hard look in the mirror. They are commiting emotional abuse as well as financualy abusing the children when they destroy one parrent just for the sake of job security. If they intend to actualy stay a viable organization (aka keep their jobs) then they need to revamp and think about what they are doing before they do it.

 

We need to stop dealing with CRSU and cut them out of the loop. If they hassle you make them provide you with a lawer, after all crimials are entitled to one why not us. Make it just way too expensive to keep the current trend going. Make taxpayers aware of the money spent on their foolishness and get these programs cut.


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Fastracone,  go to  http://www.fightcps.com   read some of the stories.  You are NOT alone in this.  There are literally thousands of people in your shoes...and worse.  Myself included.  Although I don't have to contend with an ex that is "on the inside" so to speak. 

 

There is a ton of excellent advice to be had from those who've been down this particular bad stretch. And by all means GET A GOOD LAWYER.  Because I'll bet you will need it.  I have been fighting these freakin' monkeys for a year and the IDIOCY NEVER ENDS.  They start with a steaming pile of crap that any normal person would find laughable...and they just keep piling it on.

 

Your job is to rebutt everything that they say or do or write...IN WRITING,  TO EVERYBODY.  The courts, DHS administration, lawyers...whomever. Fight them tooth and nail.

 

Obviously they make mistakes...they hired your psyco ex...and continue to let her work there. Document them.

 

Most of all, go to  http://www.fightcps.com  


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Does anyone know a really good child custody attorney interested in helping fathers in the Cedar Rapids area? My current attorney is John Wagner, although he is an excellent attorney, he doesn't want to fight tooth and nail...believe it or not...he IS too honest!!
I agree there is a conflict of interest, she has Scott Co. DHS workers investigate me. When she wasn't satisfied with the unfounded report the first time, she submitted more "evidence". She is a PSYCHO!!!
I don't trust my daughter right now, she is making up lies that her mother has put into her head and I am afraid that if I insist she visit, she might make a claim of sexual abuse, then I will be in jail. In this last report my daughter told the DHS worker that she is afraid I will kill her mom...LOL!! It is all a bunch of crap that Irene has said for two years and now my daughter is saying it. I wonder when she will start in heavy with my son. Not only is it Irene committing alienation, but I am up against her family and boyfriend (Tom Suchomel).
Anyone know a mental health professional with experience in Parental Alienation Syndrome??
Thank you all for your wonderful advice!!

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PAS has been hotly debated for years.  Feminists deny it and Fathers/NCPs allege it happens as much as 50% of the time.  The core of it is the premise that a custodial parent is so angry they will manipulate their own (child) to the point the non-custodial parent's relationship has been damaged.  Courts have recognized this as the best reason to switch custody since only extreme remedies can prevent the breakdown of the NCP/child relationship.

 

It has not been sufficiently studied but thankfully, judges do ACCEPT this argument.  You must have proof and you must have counselors that testify this has occurred.  Also, it must be one of the more extreme cases.

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Are there any support groups for fathers who are wanting more time with there children and unable to get it at this time?  I am in Cedar Rapids and feeling very alone in this situation.  And Now my ex has informed me that She is "seriously" seeing someone, and that means he will have more influence on there lives then I will.  I had a very good lawyer for my divorce but she is unwilling to persue Joint Physical Custody because of the way judges are ruling.

 

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IowaFathers.com has a weekly Tuesday night meeting from 6:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. at Nazareth Evangelical Lutheran Church, 7401 University Avenue, Room 160, Cedar Falls, IA, 50613 (corner of University Ave & Main Street). I encourage you to attend our weekly meeting whenever possible!

 

Cedar Rapids is an area that needs a weekly meeting!  It is my goal to establish a weekly IowaFathers.com meeting by the end of the year in Cedar Rapids.  We need to find a location (free of charge) that will allow us to conduct meetings along with qualified co-facilitator's to conduct the meeting.


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I would like to help get a group going in Cedar Rapids as I live near there and am 1 1/2 hours from Cedar Falls. If anyone knows of a place and has interest feel free to contact me. We need to be able to get together to help each other and to share ideas. The groups need to stay in contact with the other groups. Movements always start small and grow from there.

 

I still like the idea of a Father child picknick somtime this summer.


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I would love to help get a group started.  I'm sure that a church would be willing to let us use their facilities.  How often do groups meet? 
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I have actually been searching for the name of the woman who was fired from DHS for abuse of her own kids.  I am SHOCKED to see what she has done to her own family.  Do you know anything about a worker in the Cedar Rapids DHS named Patti Brooks?  She was my worker and terminated me for unhealthy male relationships.  She made absolutely no attempts at reunification, I did not even get one chance at getting my kids back.  Perhaps that could be due to the fact my "aunt" wanted to adopt my kids and her sister in law (her brother's wife) actually works at the DHS office.  I was wondering if anyone knows whatever happened to Ms. Patti Brooks.  Apparently, she no longer works here.  If anyone has any information, please let me know.

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PS  If anyone is wondering, I am a mother.  But I joined this group because I believe efforts at reunification with our kids is a multi-gendered fight.  Of course, woman typically are the most empowered, but it doesn't always happen that way, as in my case.

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Allright, Cedar Rapidians... it's time to step up to the plate, IN NUMBERS and start some regular meetings.

 

Bruegger's Bagel Bakery on Mount Vernon Road has FREE WI-FI and I'm typing this message from the parking lot, since the shop is closed at the moment.

 

Anyone else want to meetup here in the next week?


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Missmykids welcome to the group I have thought all along that the groups name should be changed to Non custodal parents of Iowa. I think it would get the fems to lowere their gaurd and it wouldn't sound like a bunch of dead beat dads trying to get out of child support.
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We are established though Chad.  Every legislator know IowaFathers.com and most judges also.  I walked into the Black Hawk County courthouse on Wednesday and immediately a lawyer starting inquiring on if I was there for a custody dispute. 

 

Also, with the name IowaFathers.com, you automatically know the web address and it's easy to remember.  This is one of the reason I selected this name.


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"Political reasons have not the requisite certainty to afford juridical interpretation. They are different in different men. They are different in the same men at different times. And when a strict interpretation of the Constitution, according to the fixed rules which govern the interpretation of laws, is abandoned, and the theoretical opinions of individuals are allowed to control its meaning, we have no longer a Constitution; we are under a government of individual men, who for the time being have the power to declare what the Constitution is, according to their own views of that it ought to mean." Dred Scott v.Sanford, 19 How. 393, 620 (1857) (Curtis, J., dissenting).
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