We all understand how you feel and what you are going through. I guess I see it as no matter if you are married or not the child needs to be taken care of. I make $11 and hour, so that is $440 a week and so on. I pay health care which is (like everyone knows) expensive. When you take that and taxes out of my check it is not much left over. Then you have to think everyone (well most) need a car to go back and forth to work- so their is an expense regardless of if you own it or not. (payment, gas, insurance, repairs) Our kid needs daycare, most parents want a good daycare that is safe and good for your child. Kids need clothes at both homes, I buy clothes and he buys clothes, but if it is a special event or anything like that he always asks to use mine and that is ok. I see it as why buy an extra outfit if it will only get worn once! He has a few outfits incase our child gets dirty or anything on those lines. Rent or house payments are both coming from the parents. Most males I know only have a one bedroom apartment or a one or two bedroom house. Most females I know have a two bedroom apartment or house. Personally I feel every one needs their own space. Also along with that is insurance and taxes. You have your normal utlities with a house or apartment. When all that is taken out of a person's check yes that is a lot. Children also have toys at each house and sometimes go from one house to the other. Not a big problem. When all is said and done, no matter how you look at it the kid needs to be taken care of, in your house or not. Yes if the mother or father is spending all their money on "adult beverages" and smokes then yes that is a probelm. But we can not control what they do. From pesonal experience I have an ex that he spends plenty of time pointing his finger at me and telling me I am doing wrong, and it is not me that is doing wrong. He is guilty of the wrong and just needs someone to blame and that ends up being me. I did once have him tell me that it is nice I do stay home and spend time with our child. Shocking! Not all situations are the same, but the more children see their parents pointing the finger at each other for being broke the more the kids get involved. My child asks me if I am broke and I have to say "I am not broke just a few pennies short". Kids don't understand and it isn't their fault. No matter if a parent pays $50 a month or $1200 a month they always think it is to much. Remember kill each other with kindness and love your kids! I know this might not make you feel better, but seeing that smile on your child's face will make things better for awhile.
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